Cold Snap
The sun is not yet up, so it's too dark for me to see the light snow that started falling about an hour ago. It's not supposed to amount to much--a couple of inches, just enough to make the roads slippery, as they like to say on the radio, those fearmongers.
It's been a funny winter. Last year, you might recall, we got nailed with tons of snow--big snowfalls in December, followed by two- and three-inch "nuisance snows" nearly every day after that. Spring was late, and reluctant, and it felt like winter just held on and on. This year, winter is only now beginning, in mid-January.
I was grateful for the warm, dry weather all November and December. It made it so much easier to scoop up Boscoe and carry him outside every morning without first having to put on boots and parka and mittens. Made it easier for him, too, to toddle around the yard without having to navigate deep snow.
But since last Saturday, the weather has turned sharply colder. It snowed the day he died, and then the temperature plunged to ten below zero. This morning it is four above, and it is snowing.
People have been so nice, sending cards and poems and leaving comments here and on Facebook. One amazing person made a donation in Boscoe's name to a shelter on the East Coast that takes in disabled dogs.
So far, Riley has not exactly blossomed in his new role as Senior (Solo) Dog. His first day on the job, of course, he humiliated himself by vomiting all over the house and then pooping in the front hallway. Not his finest hour. (In his defense, he was nervous, and I think he had eaten a dead mouse.)
Since then his stomach has settled down, but he is back to his old standoffish ways--sleeping downstairs and keeping us a room away, though under surveillance.
He lies in his bed in the back corner of the dining room and stares out at me while I read on the couch. Hard to know what he wants; he's never been a dog who likes someone who hovers, and if I go over to pet him he will either tolerate it, or he'll get up and walk away.
If Boscoe was Bill Clinton--jovial, a big eater, a people-lover, working the room tirelessly--Riley, I fear, is Richard Nixon. Shy, wary, standoffish and suspicious. He would wear a suit on the beach. (But without the evil. There is no evil in that dog.)
So I let him lie there and stare, and I pat the couch next to me, and sometimes I can lure him over and sometimes I can't.
The other morning on the frigid walk, he suddenly wheeled around, went into a play bow, grabbed a stick, and started romping. We raced across the park, chasing sticks, getting so warm in the four-degree chill that I ripped off my mittens and stuffed them in my pocket.
We need more of that--more ebullience, and play, and flat-out running. We're due a Patches visit this Saturday. If anyone can shake that dog out of his malaise, she can.





















21 comments:
just started blogging yesterday, its nice to find people similar to myself. they say it helps to share so i thought i would. im really enjoying hearing about you and your dogs lives. especially as the dog you have left looks so similar to one i recently lost. my thoughts are with you xxx
Oh, how I love the Clinton/Nixon comparison!
If only Patches were called Checkers...
It's got to be weird that Riley is the one that needs riling. It's a good sign that he's having little bursts of energy, though--here's hoping those get more and more frequent. Having Patches around should help. Sending good thoughts to you, Doug, and Riley.
Poor Riley - but if if can go into play mode he will get through this with your patient attention.
I'm glad he's got a pal like Patches. Everyone needs a Patches.
He must be grieving too, poor lad. And there is always that suspicion in a dog's mind, like what have they done to my pal? Are they going to do the same thing to me?
patches should cheer him up.
XO
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yes, WWW, this is what doug says riley is thinking when he stares at us: 'YOU KILLED MY BUDDY!!!!'
GULP.
Be patient -- with yourself and with Riley. It takes time for our dogs to train us into our new routines! :0)
Riley needs a Gerald Ford; an amiable, accident prone dim wit who will help deflect the attention from Riley with his hilarious, bumbling pratfalls.
of course, he kinda has that in ME, willowtree.
I would put cooked chicken liver in my pocket..or Squirt Cheese in the can..didn't that work for him before on the walks? It isn't easy for Riley..he isn't used to being an only dog...that station come with lots of responsibility. I hope Patches perks him up! :)
Good luck with Riley, he sounds a bit like my younger dog. Finn the old one is getting worse, I wonder how much longer he will go on.
poor baby, you need lots of attention
Benny & Lily
It's too bad that Riley is not a happier dog. Or doesn't show it at any rate. He does look rather depressed on the photos. I hope he has fun with Patches. Will you make a video of them and post it so we can see him at play? It will shake the Nixon image, I'm sure.
Poor Riley, bless his heart. I remember when I lost my pony, his field buddy, my quarterhorse mourned for weeks. It's hard for all!
i will post a video of patches! and i think riley will be ok. it's not yet been a week since Boscoe died. i think he just needs time. but tonight when i was shoveling snow he decided he wanted to play. that made me happy.
Is this Riley's personality normally, or is it a grief response? I feel the gap between what you and Doug need, and what Riley is able to give. We know that like people, dogs have different personalities and comfort with intimacy. Lucky's desire to be by himself, always, in the far corner of the house (unless he's eating or you've actually called him in to engage with you) completely baffled me when he first came. I thought there was something wrong with him, or that I wasn't doing something right. No, it's just Lucky. I was happy to have that dog companionship again later when Lady arrived, my Velcro dog. :)
Speaking of weird winters...the sky just went dark as I began typing this. Checked the map and we have a severe thunderstorm warning. We aren't supposed to get thunderstorms in January! Snowstorms yes, thunderstorms, no. It feels like April outside.
Brenda, Riley is, by nature, a solitary and standoffish dog. He had gotten more clingy (affectionate? inter-active?) when Boscoe was in his decline--maybe he needed reassurance then. But now he's back to his old ways. That said, right now he is lying on a fleece bed about three feet away from me. He's not *always* in the other room. He's just not one of those squirmy, wriggly, must-be-with-you-constantly dogs. Never has been, never will be.
I think he's going to be OK. He played last night in the snow with me--I was shoveling and turned around to see him in the play bow, waiting for me to notice.
Thanks for stopping by my blog.....I'm so sorry for the loss of Boscoe.
That's a good sign! That's amazing that Riley prefers being in another room. I've never known a dog besides Lucky that was like that. Lucky is happy, there's no question of that - and he'll come and play with you if you call him. He loves any attention that you lavish on him. But as soon as you finish said interaction, off he goes to his bed in the far reaches of the house. On the very rare occasions when I happen to look up and find him lying on the floor in the same room, I am always astonished. Knowing Riley is kind of like that too makes me wonder... maybe there are dogs that just prefer their own "den" to being in the company of others.
I'm sure Patches will help everyone, even if only temporarily, out of their malaise. I am sorry for your loss.
PS Great job on the president comparisons!
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